How To Flirt With A Man

| October 30, 2012 | 1 Comment

how to flirt with a manFlirting is an art that can be learned. It comes naturally to some women more than others, but with a little bit of practice you will soon be a pro!

So if you want to know how to flirt with a man you find attractive but don’t yet know, you need to project an air of confidence.

Even if you don’t feel confident try deep breathing and as you breathe in imagine breathing in positive energy.

Deep breathing also helps to boost oxygen levels in the body and releases feel good hormones to help you feel relaxed. If you look calm and relaxed you will look more attractive

Don’t slouch or sit with your arms crossed as this can make you look defensive and unapproachable.

Avoid hanging out in a large group of girls as it may seem daunting for a guy to approach you. He may feel uneasy at talking to you in front of your friends, and may fear the embarrassment of rejection in front of all those other girls. As long as you sit a little way from them you should be ok. You don’t need to sit in isolation all evening while you try to get his attention!

You don’t need to look like a model!

Many women believe that only stunningly attractive girls can flirt and get the attention of a guy. This is certainly not true, and how you feel about yourself and the aura you give out is far more important. That’s not to say that you should neglect your appearance. Wear something pretty and elegant that you feel comfortable in.

A slightly revealing top and jeans that show off your figure work well. Give yourself a flattering hairstyle that shows off your features.

If you have long hair wear it loose and give it a shine with plenty of conditioner and hair serum. Accentuate your eyes by giving them a dark smokey look and coat your lashes with plenty of mascara.

Apart from your eyes your lips are one of your greatest assets that you can use for flirting.. Wear lip gloss over a flattering shade of lipstick. Outline your lips with a lipstick pencil to emphasise the cupid’s bow shape, Pouting, licking your lips, or touching your lips while gazing at your guy are all flirtatious signals that show you are interested.

woman putting on lipstick to flirt with a manA light floral perfume can make you smell nice, but don’t use too much as it can be overpowering. Spray a little on your neck and wrists.

Body language

If you want to know how to flirt with a man you need to pay attention to your body language. Did you know that 70% of the way we communicate is through body movement. The other 30% is speech. The eyes are a very powerful tool in the art of flirting. Hold his gaze for a few seconds and then slowly glance away.As you hold his gaze look up at him through your lashes and flutter them slightly.

Smile shyly as you look away and this will get his heart racing! Never go up to a guy and start talking to him. Men like to be the ones chasing after women, not the other way round. Aggressively pursuing a guy is not a good idea as it may well put him off, and you may attract the wrong sort of guy.

Once you have his attention and he’s started making conversation with you, listen to what he is saying and ask him questions. I don’t mean like you are interviewing him for a job! You need to pick up on things he says that are interesting and get him to expand on them. Everyone likes to talk about themselves and he will feel warmed by your interest in him. Compliment him on any achievements he mentions, even if they are small.


Mirroring a guy’s body language is a great flirting technique. We are all attracted to people who show a similar match to the way we sit or stand. For example if he picks up a drink and leans in towards you, wait a few seconds and do the same. If he puts his hand on the table, wait a few seconds and do the same. Don’t make it obvious by copying every movement he makes immediately he makes it otherwise he may think you are making fun of him! Mirroring is often done unconsciously if you are attracted to someone and have a bond with them. It’s a certain sign that you like them and find them attractive.


If you want to know how to flirt with a man successfully, leaning in towards him when he’s talking to you and lightly touching his arm is a powerful technique, especially when combined with the others mentioned in this article. Do this a few times and you may find he starts to copy you.


how to flirt with a man by smilingSmiling can make you look attractive instantly. It conveys warmth and fun which men find attractive. It can light up your eyes and make you seem approachable.

You will find that if you smile at someone they can’t help smiling back.

It releases tension and helps you both relax. Laughter is contagious and a great way to flirt with a guy. It’s one of the most powerful seduction techniques if done properly.

A cute and feminine laugh is good, but a raucous loud laugh isn’t a good way to attract a guy!


Flirting with a guy should always be done in a subtle way. You need to make him think that he’s the one making the move, not you. Knowing how to flirt with a guy without him thinking that you are chasing after him is a learned skill and may take a little bit of practice. If you are very shy and nervous when meeting guys just remember that they are probably as nervous as you.

You could try practising a few flirting techniques in front of the mirror until you feel comfortable with them. You could also practice on strangers you meet in the supermarket or in a queue at the bank. Like everything else in life, the more you do it the better you become. So if you want to know how to flirt with a man and get his attention start practicing today!

Once you’ve learnt how to flirt and get a guy’s attention you then have to look for signs he’s keen on you. Many guys have a fear of rejection and this can stop a guy who you really like from showing he likes you.


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