How To Save Your Relationship With Your Boyfriend

| November 4, 2012 | 1 Comment

If you have started to notice a distance between you and your boyfriend then it could be a sign that all isn’t well with the relationship. There could be many reasons for this, including the fact that you have both changed since you got together. If you ignore the early warning signs then you are putting yourself at risk of losing him.

Don’t panic though, as lots of failing relationships can be fixed. If you want to know how to save your relationship with your boyfriend before it reaches crisis point then step back and look at things objectively.

Do you love your boyfriend?

Firstly ask yourself if you are only staying together out of habit. This may seem hard but lots of couples stay in a relationship only to avoid the loneliness of being on their own. This is more common in couples who live together and have all the hastle of finding somewhere else to live, or can’t face paying the bills on their own. Staying in a relationship if you don’t love each other probably won’t work out very well. You need to decide if you really love your boyfriend before saving your relationship.

Avoid dating other guys

If you are guilty of seeing another guy behind your boyfriend’s back then you need to stop seeing him right now. If he hasn’t found out but has suspicions then you are at great risk of losing everything. You could lose not only the guy you are secretly dating but also your boyfriend.

Dating another guy will take your focus away from your love and this will affect how you behave together.

If you are still in love with your boyfriend but just want the excitement of seeing this other guy, then you should be thinking about how you can spice up your relationship and become closer again.

Is he becoming distant?

Is your boyfriend distancing himself from you? Does he make excuses not to see you, or if you are living together does he frequently stay out late? It’s possible that he may be seeing another woman.

Don’t confront him about it straight away. If you have access to his phone, then you could check his messages to see if there are any suspicious looking texts, or if you know his email password then check to see if there are any emails from unknown women.

Be careful doing this though as you don’t want him to find out. You don’t need to open up any emails, but just note to see if there are any unusual ones in his inbox.

Is he seeing someone else?

If you want to know how to save your relationship with your boyfriend, and you find out that he is seeing another woman, you have to decide what is missing in your relationship. The most common reason that men look elsewhere is that something is missing and they have found it with another woman. Often it could be something simple like he feels unloved by you, or you just aren’t paying him enough attention.

Don’t take him for granted. I am sure you love your boyfriend but what often happens in a long term relationship is that you feel you don’t have to try so hard anymore. You are under the impression that your boyfriend knows you love him, so you don’t have to keep telling him. Nothing could be further from the truth! Tell him you love him every day, and give him plenty of hugs.

If you want to save your relationship before it’s to late, then you need to act now! Win him back from this other woman before he breaks up with you. Take a look at your appearance, and if you think you have let yourself go, and slop around in tracksuits or tatty jeans then give yourself a well deserved makeover. You don’t need to look tarty, but a smart, sexy dress will make him notice you again. Get a new hairstyle. Even if you are happy with the way you look, a new hairdo will get his attention. It’s all to easy to ignore your partner if they always look the same.

Make time for dating each other

If you are living together and have stopped going out on regular dates with each other, then you need to fix that now. Get tickets to see his favourite band, or treat him to a romantic meal in an intimate candlelit restaurant. Take up a new hobby that you both enjoy such as learning tango or salsa. There are sure to be dance classes somewhere in your area. This form of dance is very sexy and requires lots of physical contact. It doesn’t have to be dancing, just as long as you are spending some quality time together away from your day to day environment.

Learn to reconnect

Do you sit down and eat a proper meal together every day? I don’t mean while watching your favourite soap, or the latest episode of MadMen. You need to switch off the tv and any other gadgets that take your attention such as mobile phones or laptops. Make this time together for catching up on any news and just reconnect with each other. (You can watch your favourite programs later!) You will be surprised at how this one small change in your routine can really bring you closer together again.

Even in today’s modern world, the old saying “A way to a man’s heart is is stomach” is still true. Cook your boyfriend a delicious meal and put candles on the table to create a romantic atmosphere.

If you want to know how to save your relationship with your boyfriend then learn to communicate with each other again. I don’t mean everyday chit chat, but talking about any issues and concerns you have with your relationship. If you are afraid of conflict, then don’t be. Burying your head in the sand won’t improve matters.

Let him go to get him back!

Lastly if your boyfriend has asked for time on his own to work things out, then give him that time. Don’t plead or beg him to stay as you will only drive him further away from you. Sometimes a clean break is needed if you want to save your relationship. Men don’t always appreciate what they have until it’s gone. If he loves you then after a short time on his own he will start to miss you and want to get back with you again.

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